Hey gorgeous!!
I filmed this week’s video with baby on the shores of the big lake we have here. We’re kicking off a three part series of what I called the Model Mentality.
And our first installation is what may be the most important part. It might also not have anything you’d expect to do with modeling!
This is: the destructive power of hopelessness.
What exactly is hopelessness? It’s what sets in when you have the sinking feeling that your life has subtly come to a stall out, and there’s really nothing exciting to reach for or look forward to, and each day seems to be your current struggles or boredom on repeat.
It’s when you feel like you’ll always be alone, or your marriage will stay distant, or your day job will stay draining, or your body will stay unwell. It’s that sense that it’s a downhill slope from here, and not in the easy sense, but in the sad sense.
What on earth does this have to do with our wellness, let alone a model mentality?
Everything – because when hopelessness comes into the game and lingers there, the drive we need to continue to make wise and healthy decisions wanes and in the worst cases can even disappear. This can lead at worst to addictions, and at best to a slow accumulation of bad habits, which take us farther and farther from all that we were intended to be.
Ironically, the results of these habits only brings us down to more hopelessness, and the cycle continues.
It’s important to note that I am not talking about clinical depression here – that is far more serious.
In fact, this sense of hopelessness can be incredibly subtle, and we might not think that anything is wrong.
It’s the sugary coffee drink we have each day as the highlight of our afternoon, because we’re never going to look like ‘those girls’ anyway, so why not just enjoy a temporary high?
It’s the staying up late scrolling through social media and fighting jealousy instead of going to bed and getting up early to create our own amazing lives.
It’s one more glass of wine, one more helping, because maybe this party will be more fun and fulfilling if we’re really really stuffed.
We slip into these behaviors and think nothing of them, when often they are coming from a deep sense of sadness that we are never going to become or create anymore than what’s in our lives right now, and perhaps has been for years.
So how can we get out of this? And why am I calling this the Model Mentality anyway?
There is a way, and some very important reasons – watch the video to find out! 😉
